Things Not to Do in Child Rearing

Parenting Blunders to Avoid at All Costs

1. Lying

Lying to children is so common in our culture that it’s often not even recognized as lying. Listing all examples would fill this article, but a few key ones can illustrate the point.

Putting Children to Bed :

Instead of writing a soothing bedtime ritual by reading prayers like Mu’awwidhatayn and Ayat al-Kursi to the child, telling the child that angels shall stand guard, watching over and protecting them until the morning, we instead threaten them with scary stories that some witch or monster is going to come and get them. This is besides lying, another undue form of fear that may haunt a child forever.

Getting Out Excuses :

You tell a child that you’re going to get an injection or visit the doctor when all you want is to leave them behind at home. This can create an irrational fear of doctors.

Lying Promises :

You deceive a child into coming toward you by holding up candy in your hand, or promise you are going to buy them something that you know you will never buy. You show children that lying is acceptable.

Feeding Deception:

Feeding potato chips to children who refuse to eat and then stealthily popping a bit of…